Orgasm: results of prostate

The prostate is a gland that lies at the center of your pelvis, just behind the pubic bone, and just above the perineum (pronounced pear-ah-NEE-um). Most men have heard about the prostate only in connection with the dreaded and widespread prostate cancer, which occurs in approximately one in eleven American men. A healthy prostate is important for avoiding prostate cancer and for your long-term sexual well-being. You can help keep your prostate healthy and possibly reduce your risk of prostate cancer by doing the pelvic Sexual Kung Fu exercises suggested here and by massaging your prostate regularly. If you have prostate trouble or want to avoid having prostate trouble in the future, see the section called "My What? Preventing and Helping Prostate Problems". The prostate, like the G spot for women, is often highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. It has in fact been called "the male G spot." The authors of The G Spot concluded; "In men there is an orgasm triggered by the penis and one by the prostate." Men report that prostate orgasms are quite different from penile orgasms, emotionally as well physically. The authors of The G Spot suggest that this is equivalent to the difference women experience between clitoral and vaginal orgasms. Like a woman’s G spot, the prostate becomes increasingly sensitive to erotic stimulation as the man becomes aroused and approaches orgasm. This is why a prostate checkup at the doctor is quite different from prostate stimulation in bed with your lover. (You and your partner should remember that the body becomes engorged from front to back, so partners should wait until a man is highly aroused before attempting prostate stimulation.) You can stimulate your prostate externally through your perineum at your Million-Dollar Point (more about this spot later in the chapter) or more directly through your anus. It is not always easy to reach by yourself if you are not very limber. Generally, the best position is lying on your back, either with your knees bent and your feet on the bed, or with your knees against your chest. In this position, you can insert a (well-lubricated) finger, curl it forward, and touch your prostate. You should feel something the size of a walnut an inch or two inside on the anterior (front) wall of your rectum. Gently rub the prostate back and forth. You can also thrust in and out at different speeds, which will also stimulate the highly sensitive nerves around your anus. If your partner is willing, she can do the same, but from a slightly easier angle. (Make sure your or your partner’s nails are short.) If either you or your partner is not interested in venturing inside your anus, you can stimulate the anal sphincter and/or the perineum, which will also stimulate the prostate. When prostate stimulation brings you to ejaculation, the fluid generally comes flowing out instead of spurting out. Keep in mind that this stimulation is very deep and very intense; as a result, it is even more difficult to control your arousal rate with prostate stimulation than it is with genital stimulation. So go slowly, and try not to push yourself over the edge.