Note: Although sex, as well as oral sex can be performed by any man or
any woman on anyone, we are assuming that those in a long-term,
monogamous relationship are going to be the primary beneficiaries of the
techniques outlined in this book. We will, however, go over safer oral sex
and cunnilingus practices for those who choose to utilize these techniques
outside of such a relationship or, if one’s partner is at risk for transmitting
STD’s. Okay, so here’s the naked truth. When parts of your body are coming into
contact with parts of other people’s bodies, you run the risk of catching
infections and diseases. Now while a handshake is almost perfectly safe,
cunnilingus is not. You may have heard that it is more difficult for a woman to transmit a virus or infection to a man and to an extent, this is true. Both
unprotected fellatio and unprotected vaginal sex carry more risks of
sexually transmitted diseases than cunnilingus does.
Keep in mind, however, that your mouth will be coming into contact with
bodily fluids that may potentially carry a virus and your partner’s vulva will
be coming into contact with a mouth that may have a potential infection –
therefore, it is better to be safe than sorry. Let’s first examine what types of
sexually transmitted diseases you may be at risk for if you perform
unprotected cunnilingus in an unsafe environment (i.e. with a promiscuous
partner). Blood borne diseases are quite possibly the most serious of
sexually transmitted diseases and include both HIV and Hepatitis C. These
are diseases that are spread only if one partner or the other comes into
direct contact with infected blood. This generally only happens if both
partners have an open sore or cut on both the vulva and the mouth. You
will want to be very careful or avoid cunnilingus entirely if you or your
partner have an open sore or cut on the mouth or vulva. These diseases can also be transmitted through hand to vulva contact if
there is an open sore or cut on the hand as well. This is where
communication is essential – if you are concerned about the risks of
transmitting a blood borne STD, discuss the risks with your partner and
whether you both would be more comfortable avoiding cunnilingus and
hand foreplay at that time whether you would prefer to practice safer sex. Bacterial infections and other infections such as Hepatitis A and B as well
as Chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis can also be transmitted through
unprotected cunnilingus. While there are Hepatitis B vaccinations and
Hepatitis A as well as the other infections can usually be treated
successfully with antibiotics, there is no reason that these sexually
transmitted diseases should be considered any less serious than blood
borne STD’s. The practice of safer sex during cunnilingus and any other
foreplay involving the vulva can reduce the chances of transmitting these
types of infections.
Perhaps the most commonly contracted sexually transmitted disease
during cunnilingus is genital herpes, the reason for which is because
genital herpes can be transmitted through simple skin-to-skin contact of the
affected area. Although they are two different types of herpes viruses, it is
possible to transmit the virus to the vulva through a cold sore on the mouth
or to the mouth with a herpes sore on the vulva. Although the herpes virus
is dormant underneath the skin when an outbreak is not present, it is still
possible to spread the herpes virus even if there aren’t any open sores on
the affected area. In the case of either a cold sore on the mouth or an
outbreak of genital herpes on the vulva, it is probably best to avoid
cunnilingus and other sexual contact during this time due to the fact that
genital herpes is so easy to spread. Like other sexually transmitted
diseases, however, genital herpes can also be practiced in a safer manner
by taking proper precautions.What are the proper precautions when practicing safer cunnilingus and
other sexual foreplay involving the vulva? Well, they’re no fun. Safer
sexual contact during these activities involves lots of latex and frankly, most
women will be completely turned off by the mere suggestion of a dental
dam. Why use one then? Isn’t this entire book about how to please a
woman? If the woman is not going enjoy cunnilingus, why bother? Well,
for starters, if she’s that uptight about it, then don’t bother. Just think of it
this way – men wear condoms. Men hate condoms. Why do they wear
them? That’s easy – to keep from having children and contracting STD’s.
Most men will sacrifice the extra pleasure of intercourse without a condom
considering the alternatives. Certainly, a woman should be willing to
sacrifice some pleasure for the sake of keeping both parties safe and STD-
free. If there are valid risks associated with performing cunnilingus for a
particular partner and she will not oblige to practicing safer sex, again we
say: don’t bother. But for those who are interested in practicing safer cunnilingus and other
foreplay, there are a slew of tools that can be used at your discretion – you
may even have some in your kitchen drawer right now. You may have
heard of dental dams – you know, those little latex squares they use at the
dentist’s office to isolate a tooth. Those are great for using during oral sex,
but adult toy companies have started making what they call “lollyes” – the same concept, but labeled specifically for oral sex. If you’re in the heat of
the moment and haven’t got anything else on hand, plastic wrap will work
just fine (see, we told you it might be in your kitchen drawer). If you haven’t
put two and two together yet, the dental dam/lollye/plastic wrap goes in
between your partner’s vulva and your tongue. Lubrication is very, very
important if you’re using any of these items during cunnilingus. Just
imagine a very dry latex condom. Uncomfortable, right? Plus, having lube
on the vulva-side of the latex or plastic will mimic the feeling of a wet
tongue more closely. Remember though, oil-based lubricant can cause
latex to break down – always use water-based lubricant.
If you plan on engaging in foreplay of the vulva using your hands, you may
want to consider using a latex glove if you’re concerned about the risk of
transmitting STD’s. Truthfully, infections such as gonorrhea, Chlamydia
and the like generally aren’t going to be transmitted through hand-to-vulva
contact. If, however, there are open sores or cuts on the hands, fingers or
vulva, you do run the risk of possibly transmitting or contracting an STD.
Unlike with cunnilingus, using a latex glove does not hinder the pleasurable
feelings in the least – in fact, when properly lubricated; a gloved finger may
feel more heavenly than one with calluses and hangnails. Just keep in
mind that a dry latex glove doesn’t feel good – remember to use plenty of
water-based lube. Although some of these ideas (dental dams anyone?)
may seem like no fun, it really is better to be safe than sorry. A caring
partner will happily oblige if you request protection for both her and yourself
if you are concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. And if she doesn’t happily oblige? You may want to reconsider sexual relations with
this person entirely.
any woman on anyone, we are assuming that those in a long-term,
monogamous relationship are going to be the primary beneficiaries of the
techniques outlined in this book. We will, however, go over safer oral sex
and cunnilingus practices for those who choose to utilize these techniques
outside of such a relationship or, if one’s partner is at risk for transmitting
STD’s. Okay, so here’s the naked truth. When parts of your body are coming into
contact with parts of other people’s bodies, you run the risk of catching
infections and diseases. Now while a handshake is almost perfectly safe,
cunnilingus is not. You may have heard that it is more difficult for a woman to transmit a virus or infection to a man and to an extent, this is true. Both
unprotected fellatio and unprotected vaginal sex carry more risks of
sexually transmitted diseases than cunnilingus does.
Keep in mind, however, that your mouth will be coming into contact with
bodily fluids that may potentially carry a virus and your partner’s vulva will
be coming into contact with a mouth that may have a potential infection –
therefore, it is better to be safe than sorry. Let’s first examine what types of
sexually transmitted diseases you may be at risk for if you perform
unprotected cunnilingus in an unsafe environment (i.e. with a promiscuous
partner). Blood borne diseases are quite possibly the most serious of
sexually transmitted diseases and include both HIV and Hepatitis C. These
are diseases that are spread only if one partner or the other comes into
direct contact with infected blood. This generally only happens if both
partners have an open sore or cut on both the vulva and the mouth. You
will want to be very careful or avoid cunnilingus entirely if you or your
partner have an open sore or cut on the mouth or vulva. These diseases can also be transmitted through hand to vulva contact if
there is an open sore or cut on the hand as well. This is where
communication is essential – if you are concerned about the risks of
transmitting a blood borne STD, discuss the risks with your partner and
whether you both would be more comfortable avoiding cunnilingus and
hand foreplay at that time whether you would prefer to practice safer sex. Bacterial infections and other infections such as Hepatitis A and B as well
as Chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis can also be transmitted through
unprotected cunnilingus. While there are Hepatitis B vaccinations and
Hepatitis A as well as the other infections can usually be treated
successfully with antibiotics, there is no reason that these sexually
transmitted diseases should be considered any less serious than blood
borne STD’s. The practice of safer sex during cunnilingus and any other
foreplay involving the vulva can reduce the chances of transmitting these
types of infections.
Perhaps the most commonly contracted sexually transmitted disease
during cunnilingus is genital herpes, the reason for which is because
genital herpes can be transmitted through simple skin-to-skin contact of the
affected area. Although they are two different types of herpes viruses, it is
possible to transmit the virus to the vulva through a cold sore on the mouth
or to the mouth with a herpes sore on the vulva. Although the herpes virus
is dormant underneath the skin when an outbreak is not present, it is still
possible to spread the herpes virus even if there aren’t any open sores on
the affected area. In the case of either a cold sore on the mouth or an
outbreak of genital herpes on the vulva, it is probably best to avoid
cunnilingus and other sexual contact during this time due to the fact that
genital herpes is so easy to spread. Like other sexually transmitted
diseases, however, genital herpes can also be practiced in a safer manner
by taking proper precautions.What are the proper precautions when practicing safer cunnilingus and
other sexual foreplay involving the vulva? Well, they’re no fun. Safer
sexual contact during these activities involves lots of latex and frankly, most
women will be completely turned off by the mere suggestion of a dental
dam. Why use one then? Isn’t this entire book about how to please a
woman? If the woman is not going enjoy cunnilingus, why bother? Well,
for starters, if she’s that uptight about it, then don’t bother. Just think of it
this way – men wear condoms. Men hate condoms. Why do they wear
them? That’s easy – to keep from having children and contracting STD’s.
Most men will sacrifice the extra pleasure of intercourse without a condom
considering the alternatives. Certainly, a woman should be willing to
sacrifice some pleasure for the sake of keeping both parties safe and STD-
free. If there are valid risks associated with performing cunnilingus for a
particular partner and she will not oblige to practicing safer sex, again we
say: don’t bother. But for those who are interested in practicing safer cunnilingus and other
foreplay, there are a slew of tools that can be used at your discretion – you
may even have some in your kitchen drawer right now. You may have
heard of dental dams – you know, those little latex squares they use at the
dentist’s office to isolate a tooth. Those are great for using during oral sex,
but adult toy companies have started making what they call “lollyes” – the same concept, but labeled specifically for oral sex. If you’re in the heat of
the moment and haven’t got anything else on hand, plastic wrap will work
just fine (see, we told you it might be in your kitchen drawer). If you haven’t
put two and two together yet, the dental dam/lollye/plastic wrap goes in
between your partner’s vulva and your tongue. Lubrication is very, very
important if you’re using any of these items during cunnilingus. Just
imagine a very dry latex condom. Uncomfortable, right? Plus, having lube
on the vulva-side of the latex or plastic will mimic the feeling of a wet
tongue more closely. Remember though, oil-based lubricant can cause
latex to break down – always use water-based lubricant.
If you plan on engaging in foreplay of the vulva using your hands, you may
want to consider using a latex glove if you’re concerned about the risk of
transmitting STD’s. Truthfully, infections such as gonorrhea, Chlamydia
and the like generally aren’t going to be transmitted through hand-to-vulva
contact. If, however, there are open sores or cuts on the hands, fingers or
vulva, you do run the risk of possibly transmitting or contracting an STD.
Unlike with cunnilingus, using a latex glove does not hinder the pleasurable
feelings in the least – in fact, when properly lubricated; a gloved finger may
feel more heavenly than one with calluses and hangnails. Just keep in
mind that a dry latex glove doesn’t feel good – remember to use plenty of
water-based lube. Although some of these ideas (dental dams anyone?)
may seem like no fun, it really is better to be safe than sorry. A caring
partner will happily oblige if you request protection for both her and yourself
if you are concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. And if she doesn’t happily oblige? You may want to reconsider sexual relations with
this person entirely.
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