SEXUAL HEALING

Sexual pleasure is, however, just one part of feeling good. Taoist sexuality can also help you and your partner stay healthier and possibly even, believe it or not, live longer. Sexual Kung Fu began as a branch of Chinese medicine, and the ancient Taoists were themselves doctors. As physicians they were concerned as much with the body’s physical well-being as they were with its sexual satisfaction. Sexuality was seen as the most potent medicine, both curative and preventive. If you were sick, a Taoist doctor might very well prescribe – in addition to herbs and acupuncture – a two-week regimen of' lovemaking in certain positions. Now that’s (to quote Aretha Franklin) Dr. Feel Good in the Morning. There are other, more obvious benefits. With nonejaculatory lovemaking – in which the man orgasms but does not ejaculate – whatever birth control you use will be even more effective. Equally as important in these days of sexually transmitted diseases and concern over the transfer of bodily fluids, nonejaculatory sex is also safer sex. Whatever other safer-sex precautions you take (using a condom, to take an obvious example) will be all the safer if your partner is not ejaculating. An added benefit is that nonejaculatory sex is less messy – no more wet spots or arguing over who has to sleep on them. Many Women also appreciate not having their partner’s semen dripping out of their vagina, As one partner of a multi-orgasmic man put it, “My vagina felt like it was sparkling with my own secretions. I liked not having his sperm dripping out of me all night.” The kind of profound sexual intimacy that Taoist sexuality allows is not a relationship cure-all, or a replacement for other forms of communication, but it can deepen your love. Open and honest communication is an essential part of this practice, and it won’t work if you just grin and bear it. There will be moments, as your partner is learning to control his ejaculation, when he asks you to stop moving or to help in some other way, but in general this momentary sacrifice will be rewarded with many, many more moments, minutes, hours of pleasure. However, sex should never be a sacrifice one partner makes for the other, and if necessary, he can always practice the techniques in this book on his own. This solo cultivation” is an important part of the practice and is not regarded with the same stigma that is associated with masturbation in the West. The most important factor in your partner’s ability to become multi-orgasmic and in your and his ability to become a multi-orgasmic couple is your support and your sincere desire.