Clitoral Stimulation Techniques

It is important to note here that most women respond well to clitoral stimulation outside the clitoral hood. Like we’ve mentioned many, many times in this book, the clitoris is often much too sensitive to handle direct stimulation (meaning stimulation of the clitoral head – also called glans – itself). An outside approach works best – after all, the protection of the clitoral head is exactly what the clitoral hood was designed to do. There’s no need to go digging around underneath the clitoral hood with your tongue to find the head – this will only cause extreme discomfort and in some cases, even pain. Any of these clitoral stimulation techniques can be performed with the tongue focused on the outside of the clitoral hood, with the exception of the upwards stroke. It is also important to note here that any one of these moves in and of themselves is not enough to bring your partner to orgasm. Moves and techniques must be repeated and varied – keep your partner guessing! Don’t forget, however, that you must also develop a rhythm and keep it, especially close to orgasm. Keeping that in mind, let’s go over some of the tongue techniques in more detail. Š Sweeping – this move is great! It simply feels wonderful to a woman and should be a staple of any cunnilingus diet. It is a fairly easy move – position your tongue on either the right or left side of the clitoris and move from side to side as though you were sweeping a floor. Variations on this move: Using both fast and slow strokes (it is best to start out a bit slower at first so as not to surprise your partner and gradually move into a faster pace) can maximize the pleasurable outcome of this particular technique. This technique can also be utilized with a vertical motion, however, as we’ve said before, licking with an upwards stroke will expose the all-too- sensitive clitoral head and may turn your partner off entirely. You can certainly try it – some women do like upwards strokes on their clitoris. If she responds well, use this vertical motion in conjunction with other tongue techniques. Š Circles – this too is one of the best and most pleasurable clitoral technique in cunnilingus. You’ll want to use this one a lot, because it can rarely get boring! The technique is somewhat self-explanatory – again, you’ll position your tongue either to the left or right of your partner’s clitoris. You will begin to move your tongue in circles around the clitoris only, either in a clockwise or counter-clockwise motion. This feels excellent when your partner is fairly aroused because it gives the clitoris plenty of stimulation outside the hood where it is well-received, but once your tongue gets to the 6:00 position on the “clock” of the clitoris, she will get a lovely preview of your tongue on her sensitive clitoral head. Variations on this move: Again, you can use either fast strokes or slow strokes, and as always, slow works best in the beginning if you choose to use the circular motion in the beginning of your cunnilingus routine. You can, of course, start out with a medium to fast pace if your partner is already sufficiently warmed up. As with most of the clitoral techniques outlined in this section, the strokes can also be varied in their degrees of softness or hardness. A soft tongue works best at the beginning when your partner is still getting her “oven” turned on and strokes with more pressure are excellent when your partner is nearing orgasm. Another way to vary the technique with this move or other moves is to change your tongue “shapes.” A tongue can be pointed to create more of a snake-like, darting sensation or it can be wide and soft, mimicking a puppy-dog lapping sensation. The latter in particular is a wonderful trick to have in your cunnilingus arsenal - it will keep one move from becoming monotonous even though it is technically the same move! Just remember – variation (yet still keeping a repetitive rhythm) is key to giving your partner the most exquisite and mind-blowing orgasm. Suction – this is a move that is best performed when your partner is sufficiently aroused. Suction too early in the game may turn her off completely by putting too much pressure on her sensitive clitoris too soon. You’ll want to take her clitoris gently into your mouth and lightly suck on it – much as though you were drinking from a straw. Remember; don’t get too rough with this move! This can be easy to do, so it is very important that you pay attention to your partner’s cues and movements. If she seems to be shrinking away before her orgasm, lighten up on the suction or discontinue sucking her clitoris at all. Most women enjoy this move; however, some do not so always make sure you are aware of your partner’s responses to ensure that you aren’t using any techniques that are uncomfortable to her. Variations on this move: Although most techniques in this section can be utilized with either a soft or a “hard” tongue or done fast or slow, this movement in particular is best done with extreme care – meaning soft and slow! One variation that you can employ while using the suction technique is to go from sucking just on her clitoris alone to encompassing her entire vulva in your mouth and gently sucking on the entire area for just a few moments – or longer if she seems to be enjoying it! You can certainly switch between the two for awhile – it will give her that wonderful feeling of being taken all into your mouth while giving her clitoris the much needed attention it craves during this time. Š ABC’s – you might have heard of this technique before, but then again, you might have not. This may quite possibly be the best technique outlined in this book, so listen up! It may sound funny, but you’ll once again position your tongue (a pointed one works best here) either to the side or at the top of her clitoris and begin using your tongue to draw your ABC’s. Yes, you heard right. This gives your partner a clitoral sensation similar to that of the circular stroke (most of the movement is performed outside of the clitoral hood while just a few strokes end up contacting the clitoral head itself) and simply feels divine to your partner. But wait a second! If the sensations are really all that similar to the circular strokes, why even do the ABC strokes at all? Well, there’s the money question. The ABC stroke is as powerful as it is because it gives just the right amount of contact to both the clitoral hood and the clitoral head while mixing things up. You get the best of all the worlds – perfect contact, an excellent rhythm but here’s the rub – no two strokes are exactly the same. The different letters that you’ll be tracing with your tongue allow for enough variation to keep your partner guessing and on the edge – of orgasm! Very few men with sufficiently warmed up partners have made it all the way to the letter Z. Variations on this move: It is difficult to vary a practically perfect technique – and yes, we’re going so far as to say that the ABC technique is perfect. However, there are some other “preschool” based techniques that you can use if your partner shows the need for more repetition and less variation during cunnilingus. You can try tracing your shapes instead (circle, square, triangle, rectangle, octagon, etc.) or you can spell words to your lover such as “I love you,” “You’re amazing” or anything else you can think of. You can also trace numbers – count from one to . . . well, until she orgasms! Š Vacuum – This move is fairly self-explanatory, however, you want to be careful not to suck too hard. Place your mouth over your partner’s clitoris and gently (we emphasize gently) suck it in and out of your mouth. This is a move best used when your partner is already warmed up and is fairly close to orgasm. Using it before your partner is fully ready (too early during cunnilingus) may result in her rejecting the sensation completely. You also want to avoid using this move during her orgasm unless your partner specifically requests it. It may be too strong of a sensation during an orgasm. Variations on this move: Use the tip of your tongue to gently flick her clitoris while it is in your mouth – release her clitoris and repeat. Vary this move with just the suction move and you’ll soon have your honey in orgasm heaven. Just remember not to use this move too often – it is a very powerful move and if used too much, can create numbness or insensitivity to the suction. Used sparingly and at the right times, however, can be very beneficial during a cunnilingus session. Š The Messy Eater – this is a tricky one, although it may not sound like it at first. Some women may really go for this (especially very close to and during an orgasm) and others may be turned off by the mere name of it. The best way to find out which category your partner is in is to either ask her directly or try it once and gauge her reaction. Basically, this move encompasses all the other techniques (such as tongue circles or gentle vacuum suction) but in somewhat of a “smorgasbord” fashion. You’ll want to cradle both legs in your arms (her thigh will be in the crease of your elbow and your hands should come up around and rest on her hip bones) and…well, dig in! This is a move where attitude really pays off – you’ve got to act like you’re hungry and you just can’t get enough of it. On the same token, however, you’ve still got to keep in mind that the clitoris is very sensitive and although you may be going at it like you’re at a pie-eating contest, you don’t want to go caveman on her and rough her up. Keeping a balance between the two is really what makes this move worthwhile. TIP: If you’ve exhausted all your moves and are looking for a new repertoire, try watching people eat while you’re out at lunch or dinner. People eat in very different ways and you may just pick up a technique or two while watching someone eat a salad in a hurry on their lunch break or savor a decadent dessert on a dinner date. Make a mental note of the lip and tongue movements used and use them during cunnilingus the next time you go south of the border. You might just give your sweetie something new to talk about at work! The best thing to do when preparing for cunnilingus and the different strokes you’ll use is to keep an open mind. Get creative! While there are only so many different types of tongue techniques that you can actually use, you can alter the order in which you use them, the pressure of the touch and more to make them completely different moves! Don’t be afraid to make up your own moves too! If using ice or hot tea really turns you and your partner on, go for it! If your partner only enjoys one or two tongue techniques but she really gets off on them, don’t be afraid to stick with just those moves to get her to orgasm time and time again. You don’t have to get all the techniques perfectly either to impress your partner – remember, you’re not trying to impress her anyway! Even if she doesn’t orgasm the first few times you perform cunnilingus on her, don’t get frustrated. Keep trying! Your efforts will be much appreciated and she can enjoy a cunnilingus session without having to have an orgasm as a result of it. Just keep an open mind!