Ending Premature Ejaculation According to Taoist sexuality, there is really no such thing as “premature ejaculation." We don’t say this to put sex therapists and sex surrogates out of business, or to deny that many men ejaculate too soon to satisfy their partners, or for that matter themselves. The point is simply that from the Taoist standpoint, the vast majority of men ejaculate “prematurely.” According to Sexual Kung Fu, you should be able to choose when you want to ejaculate, so any unwanted ejaculation is premature. Moreover, if ejaculation is no longer the goal, and you can have orgasms without ejaculation, then most ejaculations are by definition premature, or at least superfluous. So the question is not whether you can last for a certain number of minutes on the stopwatch but whether you and your partner are satisfied with the duration of your lovemaking. If you practice the exercises you will learn to postpone your ejaculation for as long as you and your partner wish. If the problem persists or is especially troublesome, you might want to seek professional help. A sex therapist or sex surrogate will help you figure out if there are deeper psychological reasons you are ejaculating quickly (for example, fear of getting caught," fear of losing your erection, and so on). A professional may give you a series of exercises with which you can build up your sexual confidence. Following is an example of a sequence of exercises that will help you build your staying power. They are based on the understanding that you must learn to detect, and eventually control, your arousal rate.
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