So why do you have to learn about female anatomy to learn how to perform
cunnilingus? You just lick it, right? Well, not exactly and we’re sensing that
since you’re reading this book, “just licking it” hasn’t quite had the reaction
that you were hoping for. We’ll start with the basics – doing certain things
with your tongue on certain areas of a woman’s vulva can yield extremely
pleasurable results. That’s what cunnilingus is all about and of course, we
will go more into just what to do when you’ve made your way down south
later in the book. First, let’s get familiar with a woman’s vulva in general.
So why is it called a vulva? Why don’t you just say vagina?
Well, we’re trying to be politically correct here, or at least, anatomically
correct. Contrary to popular belief, the term “vagina” does not refer to the
whole thing in general. A woman’s vagina is simply the entrance to her
cervix, uterus and all those fun baby-making organs up there. So how do
we refer to the whole thing without listing all the different parts every single
time we want to refer to…down there? The term vulva fits the bill and is
generally non-offensive to most people. We didn’t think the p-word would
accurately refer to what we’re talking about here, and no, we don’t mean
“poonanny.” I’ve heard of the clitoris before, but what the heck is a fourchette?
Okay, so you’ve heard of the clitoris. That’s a great start, but there are
many more parts to the female anatomy that will make her feel good and
possibly bring her to orgasm if licked, sucked and caressed in the proper
ways. Let’s go over each part in the diagram so we can get a better idea of
what exactly, makes up the vulva.
The Mons Pubis
The Mons pubis, also known as the “Mound of Venus” is the soft mound of
skin at the top of the vulva and is usually the part sporting the most pubic
hair, although there will most likely be pubic hair present on other parts of
the vulva as well. Sexually, the Mons pubis doesn’t play a big part,
although you may find that your partner enjoys having her pubic hair
tugged lightly during cunnilingus or having the Mons pubis pulled gently
towards her belly button (stretching out the vulva) when she is close to
orgasm.
The front commissure lies just underneath the Mons pubis and is the
beginning of the clitoral shaft. Some women who have extremely sensitive
clitorises (to the point where direct stimulation of the clitoral head is actually
painful) may enjoy more pressure on the front commissure. This is also a great place to begin during cunnilingus, as it will help your partner get
warmed up before direct contact is made with the clitoris.
The Clitoral Shaft
Similar to the front commissure, the clitoral shaft hides beneath the skin
and is actually one of the most sensitive parts of the vulva (other than the
clitoral head). Just like with the front commissure, if you find that your lady
is a little on the sensitive side, you can try using soft pressure and long, flat
tongue sweeps on the clitoral shaft to help get her aroused and bring her to
orgasm.
The Clitoral Hood
The clitoral hood plays an important part during a woman’s arousal and it is
extremely important that you understand its function before embarking on a
cunnilingus session. Not knowing how to work around the clitoral hood
could make or break your partner’s orgasm. This little guy protects the
clitoral head – like we keep saying, the clitoral head is extremely sensitive.
Some movements can be too rough on the clitoral head and may cause
pain. The clitoral hood will actually move down to protect the head – in
essence, like a protective sleeve that diffuses touch (whether by a penis,
tongue or hand) to make it less painful and more pleasurable for the
woman. As a woman moves closer and closer to orgasm, the clitoral hood
retracts, revealing the clitoral head in all its glory. If you notice that the
clitoral hood is down over the head, try licking in circles around it or using a downward motion. This will help arouse your partner and coax the clitoral
head out of its hidey-hole. Take note, however, that as a woman reaches
the brink of an orgasm, the clitoral head will once again retract beneath the
hood to protect against over-stimulation and the ruination of an orgasm. If
you see the clitoral head move beneath the folds of skin of the hood just as
your partner is starting to scream and moan, don’t go searching for this lost
treasure – you may end up with a very disappointed and frustrated partner.
Just continue the strokes that brought her to the brink in the first place.
The Frenulum
The frenulum is the beginning of the inner labia, where the two lips meet at
the top. It is comprised of similar tissue and although it does not have the
capacity to bring a woman to orgasm, it too is full of sensitive nerve
endings that can experience pleasure if caressed and stroked in the correct
manner.
Labia Minora and Labia Majora
Yes, these parts also have pleasurable nerve endings, although not as
much as the clitoral hood or head. The labia minora (the inner lips of the
labia) and the labia majora (the outer lips of the labia) are basically there to
protect the vaginal opening and the birth canal. You can, however, give a
woman extreme pleasure by licking in, out and all around these folds – it
will give her a more intense and a more “thorough” cunnilingus experience. The Vaginal Opening
This is the vagina. It is also known as the birth canal and of course, is most
men’s favorite part of the female anatomy. The outer rim of the vaginal
opening is sensitive, as well as the G-spot found deep inside. A woman
can derive great pleasure from a finger or smooth object working its way
inside the vaginal canal during cunnilingus, but more on that later.
The Fourchette
This is basically the frenulum in reverse – it is the where the labia minora
meet at the bottom of the vaginal canal. It too can be sensitive and
receptive to pleasurable attention; however, this may be where some
women get uncomfortable during cunnilingus. Some women are not
comfortable with a man’s tongue going so far down south, so you may want
to communicate with your partner her feelings about that particular area of
the vulva. Also keep in mind that during childbirth, an episiotomy is often
performed on this particular area (a vertical cut directly through the
fourchette and into the perineum) to make more room for the birth of a
baby. Afterwards, this area is extremely sensitive and painful and some
women say that it has never returned to its normal state. Again, it is
important that you and your partner discuss the fourchette and whether or
not she would like to receive pleasure in that area of her vulva before a
cunnilingus session, especially if this is the first one. The Perineum
This is the space of skin (sometimes small, sometimes large) that lies
between the fourchette and the vaginal opening and the opening of the
anus. Some women enjoy slight pressure in this area, possibly with a hand
or index finger, but as with the fourchette, it is something best discussed
with your partner before cunnilingus. This part in particular may not give
her any pleasure at all and worst case scenario, she may find attention to
this area somewhat offensive. If you and your partner are not comfortable
discussing the fourchette and the perineum and their roles in cunnilingus, it
might be best to play it safe and stay north of the border.
cunnilingus? You just lick it, right? Well, not exactly and we’re sensing that
since you’re reading this book, “just licking it” hasn’t quite had the reaction
that you were hoping for. We’ll start with the basics – doing certain things
with your tongue on certain areas of a woman’s vulva can yield extremely
pleasurable results. That’s what cunnilingus is all about and of course, we
will go more into just what to do when you’ve made your way down south
later in the book. First, let’s get familiar with a woman’s vulva in general.
So why is it called a vulva? Why don’t you just say vagina?
Well, we’re trying to be politically correct here, or at least, anatomically
correct. Contrary to popular belief, the term “vagina” does not refer to the
whole thing in general. A woman’s vagina is simply the entrance to her
cervix, uterus and all those fun baby-making organs up there. So how do
we refer to the whole thing without listing all the different parts every single
time we want to refer to…down there? The term vulva fits the bill and is
generally non-offensive to most people. We didn’t think the p-word would
accurately refer to what we’re talking about here, and no, we don’t mean
“poonanny.” I’ve heard of the clitoris before, but what the heck is a fourchette?
Okay, so you’ve heard of the clitoris. That’s a great start, but there are
many more parts to the female anatomy that will make her feel good and
possibly bring her to orgasm if licked, sucked and caressed in the proper
ways. Let’s go over each part in the diagram so we can get a better idea of
what exactly, makes up the vulva.
The Mons Pubis
The Mons pubis, also known as the “Mound of Venus” is the soft mound of
skin at the top of the vulva and is usually the part sporting the most pubic
hair, although there will most likely be pubic hair present on other parts of
the vulva as well. Sexually, the Mons pubis doesn’t play a big part,
although you may find that your partner enjoys having her pubic hair
tugged lightly during cunnilingus or having the Mons pubis pulled gently
towards her belly button (stretching out the vulva) when she is close to
orgasm.
The front commissure lies just underneath the Mons pubis and is the
beginning of the clitoral shaft. Some women who have extremely sensitive
clitorises (to the point where direct stimulation of the clitoral head is actually
painful) may enjoy more pressure on the front commissure. This is also a great place to begin during cunnilingus, as it will help your partner get
warmed up before direct contact is made with the clitoris.
The Clitoral Shaft
Similar to the front commissure, the clitoral shaft hides beneath the skin
and is actually one of the most sensitive parts of the vulva (other than the
clitoral head). Just like with the front commissure, if you find that your lady
is a little on the sensitive side, you can try using soft pressure and long, flat
tongue sweeps on the clitoral shaft to help get her aroused and bring her to
orgasm.
The Clitoral Hood
The clitoral hood plays an important part during a woman’s arousal and it is
extremely important that you understand its function before embarking on a
cunnilingus session. Not knowing how to work around the clitoral hood
could make or break your partner’s orgasm. This little guy protects the
clitoral head – like we keep saying, the clitoral head is extremely sensitive.
Some movements can be too rough on the clitoral head and may cause
pain. The clitoral hood will actually move down to protect the head – in
essence, like a protective sleeve that diffuses touch (whether by a penis,
tongue or hand) to make it less painful and more pleasurable for the
woman. As a woman moves closer and closer to orgasm, the clitoral hood
retracts, revealing the clitoral head in all its glory. If you notice that the
clitoral hood is down over the head, try licking in circles around it or using a downward motion. This will help arouse your partner and coax the clitoral
head out of its hidey-hole. Take note, however, that as a woman reaches
the brink of an orgasm, the clitoral head will once again retract beneath the
hood to protect against over-stimulation and the ruination of an orgasm. If
you see the clitoral head move beneath the folds of skin of the hood just as
your partner is starting to scream and moan, don’t go searching for this lost
treasure – you may end up with a very disappointed and frustrated partner.
Just continue the strokes that brought her to the brink in the first place.
The Frenulum
The frenulum is the beginning of the inner labia, where the two lips meet at
the top. It is comprised of similar tissue and although it does not have the
capacity to bring a woman to orgasm, it too is full of sensitive nerve
endings that can experience pleasure if caressed and stroked in the correct
manner.
Labia Minora and Labia Majora
Yes, these parts also have pleasurable nerve endings, although not as
much as the clitoral hood or head. The labia minora (the inner lips of the
labia) and the labia majora (the outer lips of the labia) are basically there to
protect the vaginal opening and the birth canal. You can, however, give a
woman extreme pleasure by licking in, out and all around these folds – it
will give her a more intense and a more “thorough” cunnilingus experience. The Vaginal Opening
This is the vagina. It is also known as the birth canal and of course, is most
men’s favorite part of the female anatomy. The outer rim of the vaginal
opening is sensitive, as well as the G-spot found deep inside. A woman
can derive great pleasure from a finger or smooth object working its way
inside the vaginal canal during cunnilingus, but more on that later.
The Fourchette
This is basically the frenulum in reverse – it is the where the labia minora
meet at the bottom of the vaginal canal. It too can be sensitive and
receptive to pleasurable attention; however, this may be where some
women get uncomfortable during cunnilingus. Some women are not
comfortable with a man’s tongue going so far down south, so you may want
to communicate with your partner her feelings about that particular area of
the vulva. Also keep in mind that during childbirth, an episiotomy is often
performed on this particular area (a vertical cut directly through the
fourchette and into the perineum) to make more room for the birth of a
baby. Afterwards, this area is extremely sensitive and painful and some
women say that it has never returned to its normal state. Again, it is
important that you and your partner discuss the fourchette and whether or
not she would like to receive pleasure in that area of her vulva before a
cunnilingus session, especially if this is the first one. The Perineum
This is the space of skin (sometimes small, sometimes large) that lies
between the fourchette and the vaginal opening and the opening of the
anus. Some women enjoy slight pressure in this area, possibly with a hand
or index finger, but as with the fourchette, it is something best discussed
with your partner before cunnilingus. This part in particular may not give
her any pleasure at all and worst case scenario, she may find attention to
this area somewhat offensive. If you and your partner are not comfortable
discussing the fourchette and the perineum and their roles in cunnilingus, it
might be best to play it safe and stay north of the border.
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