Hands and fingers are the most popular complement to oral sex for both
men and women. Let’s face it – there are times when using our hands can
give our mouths a bit of a break and bring our partner to orgasm that much
faster. There are other times when using our hands just gets in the way.
Be sure to pay attention to your partner when doing each of these moves
and assess her reaction – if she loves it, great! Keep going. If she seems
to be shrinking away, try another hand technique or take the hand away
altogether. Also bear in mind that one night she may be in the mood for a
certain stroke and another night she may want tongue-only action. This
can be said of all cunnilingus efforts though, so keep a watchful eye on
your partner.
Š Fingering – Okay, this is by far the most popular
accompaniment to cunnilingus. There are so many more ways to pleasure
your partner with your finger inside her and your tongue outside her! Be
wary of just sticking your finger inside her vaginal opening though – you’ll
want to observe some niceties first. Couple the following techniques with
the above clitoral techniques to blow your partner’s mind!
- Make sure she is wet. You should almost never have to
use lubricant because you will have sufficiently warmed your partner up
first and performed some cunnilingus on her already, however, we know
that some ladies are drier than others and may require lubricant. If you’re
using a condom, finger cot, or latex gloves you’ll need to use water-based
lubricant. Remember, baby oil and oil-based lubricants will break down
latex and they aren’t that great anyways.
- Whatever technique you use, make sure you do it slowly
and gently unless she asks you otherwise. This is a big one – you don’t
want to jam your finger in there because that will probably end the entire
cunnilingus session and several future cunnilingus sessions right then and
there.
So exactly how do you go about the whole fingering-while-performing
cunnilingus thing?
- Slide your finger in and out of her slowly and gently.
You can keep your finger straight or you can put a bit of a bend in it if you
like to help reach the G-spot (and we’ll go over that in detail a little later in
this section). You can also use your finger to press on the walls of her
vaginal canal or to go deep inside, depending on how your lady likes it.
One of the most popular fingering moves is to slide the tip of your finger in
and out of her vaginal canal about ½ an inch – you can even move your
fingertips in circles to trace the outer rim of her vagina. Ladies love this
because the first inch or so of the vagina is jam-packed with pleasure
inducing nerves. You can twist your finger as you go in and out as well –
this creates a wonderful sensation that carries throughout the entire vaginal
canal. Some ladies prefer two or three fingers, but contrary to popular
belief, most ladies prefer only one finger. So unless your partner asks for
it, don’t go jamming more than two fingers in her vagina at a time. Again,
use your creativity – you can try lots of movements with your hands to find
out which she likes best.
TIP: Also be sure that if you’re not wearing gloves
or a finger cot that your fingernails are clean and trimmed well with no
hangnails. Hangnails and jagged fingernails can cause small cuts inside
your partner’s vagina, not only making the experience extremely
unpleasant for her but also increasing the risk of sexually transmitted
diseases in non-monogamous partners.
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- As far as helping hands go, you generally want to stay
away from the clitoris with your fingers. This is not a rule, just merely a
suggestion. Cunnilingus is not cunnilingus if your finger is doing the work
that your tongue should be doing. Let’s remember that the clitoris is
extremely sensitive and a warm, soft, wet tongue feels much better than a
finger (lubed or not). You can use your fingers to do other things, such as
feel inside her labia or spread the labia out, or tug gently on her mons pubis
to stretch the skin out, causing her vulva to be more responsive and
sensitive to the efforts of your tongue.
The G-Spot
Contrary to popular belief, the G-Spot is not as elusive as many cunnilingus
and other sexual information books make it out to be. First off, what is the
G-spot? It is nothing more than a small dime-to-quarter-sized bundle of
nerves about two inches inside of the vaginal canal. Generally, it is on the
top. Surprisingly, a woman can experience an orgasm from G-spot
stimulation alone; however, the feeling of this type of orgasm differs greatly
from a clitoral orgasm. Even more amazing is that it is possible for a
woman to have both types of orgasms at once! Trust us on this one –
having both orgasms at once is simply an amazing, earth-shattering
experience for a woman. Therefore, it is probably a good thing for you to
discover where your partner’s G-spot is and put that knowledge to good
use every once in awhile.
So how exactly do I find it?
Like we said, most of the given information about G-spots is largely untrue.
The G-spot is fairly simple to find. Place the index finger of your right hand
inside her vaginal canal with your palm up. You can also use your middle
finger if you like, if your partner’s G-spot is just a tad further up the canal.
Gently make a “come here” or “come hither” motion with your finger. That
should pretty much do it. It may be further towards the front as well, so
experiment with your partner to find out what she likes the best. Combine
this technique with some of the clitoral stimulation techniques (with your
tongue!) and your honey will be in heaven!
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