Multiple Orgasms for Men?

 The fact that men can have multiple orgasms is still so shocking to most of us, women and men alike, that you may find it hard to believe. As we mentioned in the introduction, it is worth remembering that only in the last forty years have female multiple orgasms been recognized and accepted as normal. Even more incredible is the number of women who have become multi-orgasmic – once they realized it was possible. Since the fifties, when Alfred Kinsey was conducting his famous studies of human sexuality, the percentage of women who experience multiple orgasms has tripled, from 14 percent to over 50 percent. In the 1980s, sexologists William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian found that about 12 percent of the men they studied were multi-orgasmic. As your partner begins to recognize that he also has this potential and as you help him learn some simple techniques, he too will experience multiple orgasms. One partner of a multi-orgasmic man recalled: “The first time my boyfriend had an orgasm without ejaculating I couldn’t believe it. He was clearly experiencing as much pleasure as usual and I could feel his penis pulsating, but much to my surprise there was no semen and moments later we were able to continue making love. It’s still amazing to me that he can have such intense orgasms without ejaculating. Now I am surprised when he does ejaculate.” Another partner of a multi-orgasmic man described what she experiences when her partner has an orgasm without ejaculating: “My partner stops moving for a moment and moans and trembles. I can feel the strong throbbing of his penis deep inside me. Ordinarily that would be it, but not now.” Yet multiple orgasms are just the beginning. In the West, we tend to see the "big 0" as the be-all and end-all of sexuality, and many women spend a great deal of time worrying about whether they are orgasmic, when they are orgasmic, and how they are orgasmic. In Taoist sexuality, experiencing an orgasm, one or many, is not the goal. These peaks of pleasure are just part of an ecstatic process of lovemaking. Once you and your partner learn to circulate sexual energy through your bodies, you can experience orgasmic waves of pleasure as often as you like. When you make love, you will experience a depth of intimacy – a physical, emotional, and even spiritual bond – that you may have rarely, if ever, felt before.