SHARING TAOIST SEXUALITY WITH OUR SONS

Though people are never too old to benefit from the Tao, the earlier they begin to practice, the more they will gain. This is also true for our sons. If you are able to share with your son some of the Taoist insights in this book, you will help him avoid a great deal of suffering and wasted energy. Since sexual practices are done in privacy, your son cannot learn from your actions. Sexual Kung Fu is something you must tell him about through words – your own or others. Long before boys are interested in sex, they experience sexual energy. Boys (and men) get erections and aroused for all sorts of reasons – boredom, among others. (Remember those “woodies” during math class?) One multi-orgasmic man described his experience: “My son called to me from the bathroom one morning and said, ‘Dad, I can’t pee.’ I went into the bathroom and noticed that he had woken up with an erection, which was preventing him from being able to pee. I taught him the Cool Draw, which he has been able to use ever since to manage his sexual energy.” Boys are often tortured by their inability to understand and control their sexual energy. If you can help your son understand how to channel this vital energy, you will save him from an enormous amount of sexual frustration. Young people, however, are often not able to understand the Tao. In the words of Dr. Sun Ssu-miao in his Priceless Prescriptions, “When a man is in his youth, he usually does not understand the Tao. Or even if he does hear or read about it, he is not likely to believe it fully and practice it. When he reaches his vulnerable old age, he will, however, realize the significance of the Tao. But by then it is often too late, for he is usually too sick to benefit fully from it.” You can wait for an opportunity when your son has approached you for advice, or you can give him this book or other materials to read, explaining that you wish you had read about these practices when you were his age. If you leave this book on your bookshelf or out in a conspicuous place, you may find that he reads it on his own, but it is important for him to realize that he does not have to lock himself in his bedroom or the bathroom to read it. You may worry that he should not read books (such as this one) that are explicit about sexuality until he reaches an appropriate age, but the appropriate age is really when he is curious enough to want to read them. Rest assured that he will not read them before he is ready, and that when he is ready, he will learn about sex one way or another.