FANTASIES

Many Western sex experts recommend having an active fantasy life, and indeed fantasies can help you to generate sexual energy when you are self-pleasuring. When you are with your partner, however, there is a danger in relying on sexual fantasies. The exchange of yin and yang energy with your partner is real, not imaginary. If you focus your sexual attention on some idealized lover or some pornographic image, you will not be able to feel the real and profound flow of energy between you and your partner. Fantasies prevent you from being present and from appreciating what is truly fantastic about your partner and about your potential to experience the heights of ecstasy together. NATURAL RHYTHMS Finally, remember to observe the general rhythms of your body and of nature. Avoid making love right after a big meal. After you have eaten, your body needs to focus its blood and energy on digestion. When you finish a meal, you should be satisfied, not stuffed, with a little hunger remaining. (As the food settles, you will become full.) When you finish lovemaking, you also should be satisfied but not sated, with a little desire left over. (As your energy settles, you will become content.) If you are ill, remember to make love with your partner on top so that you can absorb her healing energy. And remember the seasons of nature. Plants and animals all reproduce in the spring. Though humans are unique in their ability to make love all year long, don't expect yourself or your partner to be as sexually active in the fall and printer as you are in the spring and summer. Sexual Kung Fu offers you the potential for multi-orgasmic lovemaking far beyond what most people settle for in their sex lives, but this does not mean that you need to reach the heights of ecstasy every time you are intimate with your partner. Listen to the rhythms of your body and your desire.