We’ve established that women enjoy cunnilingus, but that most women
don’t ask for it or let on that they’ve thought about it or want it. So how do
you initiate it? Again, a little knowledge of the way a woman’s mind works
can go a long way when learning how to best perform cunnilingus. We
know you’re anxious to get to the techniques section and try them out, but
you can’t jump the gun here. Most women are self conscious. This we
know from the “Do I look fat in this outfit?” question. Before going down on
your partner, you must first break this barrier or she will never let you in
between her legs. This is the easy part – compliment her. Do it gradually,
over a period of time and make sure the compliments are genuine. Show
interest in her and her activities and pay a little more attention to her. In
this way, you are setting the stage for success - when your partner’s
emotional needs are met, she will open up to you sexually. You must also examine any inhibitions you have about cunnilingus as well.
It’s great if you’re completely gung-ho about the idea, but the reality is that
most men aren’t. Unfortunately, locker room stories about funny sights and
smells have scared many men out of the water. If the idea of cunnilingus
does bother you a little, try to isolate exactly what about it bothers you –
most of the time, if it’s just a hang up or two, the situation can be resolved
with little or no effort. For example, if the idea of being so close to a
woman’s vulva that you can see the hair follicles unnerves you, simply turn out the lights. There’s an excellent chance that your partner will be more
comfortable in the dark as well – she’s not at the doctor’s office, you know! Although all women and their partners are different, there are a few things
that you can both do to make the experience more pleasurable for both the
man and the woman. Some men prefer a woman’s vulva to have no hair
and others prefer a bush – both are fine and we’ll go into more detail about
pubic hair later in the book. But we can almost guarantee that everyone
appreciates a good shower! If you haven’t figured it out already, women
are very sensitive about their natural smell. This obsession probably
started around the time that women as fifth graders were made to watch
the “Mom, I don’t feel so fresh” video when learning about their coming
menstrual cycles. Fortunately for you, most women who know they’re
going to experience cunnilingus will make sure they are very clean
beforehand. You will probably not have to introduce the subject at all – it
will most likely already be taken care of, out of the fear that her natural
smell doesn’t smell all that great. Of course, under normal circumstances, her down-there smell is usually
just fine. Most women’s sensitivity and self-consciousness about her
natural smell is largely unfounded. Some women, of course, have a
stronger smell than others and if you’re new to cunnilingus (which reading this book suggests you are), you may need to take some time to adjust to
her natural smell. After some time after both you and your partner are
more comfortable, she may not even need to shower beforehand at all.
This is entirely a personal choice. However, especially in the beginning, a
shower beforehand will ultimately make both you and her more comfortable
and receptive to cunnilingus.
There may be a time or two in which you don’t feel comfortable with her
natural smell at that moment and wish your partner to shower beforehand.
She may be comfortable not showering. In this case, it is best that you
approach the subject of showering delicately so as not to offend her. A
suggestion for a shower for two will almost always do the trick! Keep in
mind that you don’t want to ask outright, so you may want to say something
like, “I would love to wash your hair in the shower to help you relax” or
“Massaging my soapy hands into your breasts would really help turn me
on…would you like to shower with me?” More than likely, your partner will
happily oblige. You can even help turn her on and get her yearning for
your mouth on her vulva by erotically stroking her vulva with a soapy hand.
Get creative!
don’t ask for it or let on that they’ve thought about it or want it. So how do
you initiate it? Again, a little knowledge of the way a woman’s mind works
can go a long way when learning how to best perform cunnilingus. We
know you’re anxious to get to the techniques section and try them out, but
you can’t jump the gun here. Most women are self conscious. This we
know from the “Do I look fat in this outfit?” question. Before going down on
your partner, you must first break this barrier or she will never let you in
between her legs. This is the easy part – compliment her. Do it gradually,
over a period of time and make sure the compliments are genuine. Show
interest in her and her activities and pay a little more attention to her. In
this way, you are setting the stage for success - when your partner’s
emotional needs are met, she will open up to you sexually. You must also examine any inhibitions you have about cunnilingus as well.
It’s great if you’re completely gung-ho about the idea, but the reality is that
most men aren’t. Unfortunately, locker room stories about funny sights and
smells have scared many men out of the water. If the idea of cunnilingus
does bother you a little, try to isolate exactly what about it bothers you –
most of the time, if it’s just a hang up or two, the situation can be resolved
with little or no effort. For example, if the idea of being so close to a
woman’s vulva that you can see the hair follicles unnerves you, simply turn out the lights. There’s an excellent chance that your partner will be more
comfortable in the dark as well – she’s not at the doctor’s office, you know! Although all women and their partners are different, there are a few things
that you can both do to make the experience more pleasurable for both the
man and the woman. Some men prefer a woman’s vulva to have no hair
and others prefer a bush – both are fine and we’ll go into more detail about
pubic hair later in the book. But we can almost guarantee that everyone
appreciates a good shower! If you haven’t figured it out already, women
are very sensitive about their natural smell. This obsession probably
started around the time that women as fifth graders were made to watch
the “Mom, I don’t feel so fresh” video when learning about their coming
menstrual cycles. Fortunately for you, most women who know they’re
going to experience cunnilingus will make sure they are very clean
beforehand. You will probably not have to introduce the subject at all – it
will most likely already be taken care of, out of the fear that her natural
smell doesn’t smell all that great. Of course, under normal circumstances, her down-there smell is usually
just fine. Most women’s sensitivity and self-consciousness about her
natural smell is largely unfounded. Some women, of course, have a
stronger smell than others and if you’re new to cunnilingus (which reading this book suggests you are), you may need to take some time to adjust to
her natural smell. After some time after both you and your partner are
more comfortable, she may not even need to shower beforehand at all.
This is entirely a personal choice. However, especially in the beginning, a
shower beforehand will ultimately make both you and her more comfortable
and receptive to cunnilingus.
There may be a time or two in which you don’t feel comfortable with her
natural smell at that moment and wish your partner to shower beforehand.
She may be comfortable not showering. In this case, it is best that you
approach the subject of showering delicately so as not to offend her. A
suggestion for a shower for two will almost always do the trick! Keep in
mind that you don’t want to ask outright, so you may want to say something
like, “I would love to wash your hair in the shower to help you relax” or
“Massaging my soapy hands into your breasts would really help turn me
on…would you like to shower with me?” More than likely, your partner will
happily oblige. You can even help turn her on and get her yearning for
your mouth on her vulva by erotically stroking her vulva with a soapy hand.
Get creative!
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