The Depths of Pleasure

When you leave all doubts behind, you'll be able to expand and see your soul devoid of emotion. The smiling gods will line the sides of the road to bid you welcome. When you touch heaven with your hands and your heart flows over the earth, your whole existence will have true meaning. To develop sexual energy, we have already talked about the follow- ing techniques: Relaxation Deep breathing Meditation Another practice that is both effective and helpful is erotic visualiza- tion. In addition, you can learn to develop the capacity to focus your energy on your heart. In a state of relaxation, in almost meditative awareness, start to visualize your lover's body with your mind's eye. Imagine it in as much detail as possible. Then imagine how you could give it pleasure, what erogenous zones you should stimulate, and how you want to do it so your lover can achieve a total state of ecstasy. Take a few moments to visualize calmly and in detail each step you want to take to satisfy your lover, how your lover's body reacts, and how ecstasy is being achieved. You'll notice that a state of inner connection ensues that makes you feel extremely excited. You'll feel a deep desire to embrace your partner and perform the sexual act as quickly as possible. But if you do so, all the stimulation and prior exercising will be lost. For a man, the most important thing is to control ejaculation and share the magic of sexual energy in an ever more prolonged fashion with his partner. While maintaining sexual contact and prolonged ecstasy, focus your awareness on the awakening of energy in the center of your heart, a very powerful energy. Three extremely important spiritual rays are concentrated in the heart, consisting of different luminosities: 1. Pink light, which is directly related to unconditional love. 2. Blue light, which is related to the power of creation. 3.Yellow light, which represents the totality of the self. Continue in a state of relaxation, naked in front of your partner. Start to visualize a flame that includes the three aforementioned colors in your heart. You'll notice that this triple flame shines light on your partner's heart as if it were a torch of fire. You and your lover must perform this exercise simultaneously, visu- alizing the other wrapped in the three colors emanating from the heart. If imagining these colors turns out to be difficult, observe a flame to- gether before performing the ritual and you'll both be able to see the three colors and the light they shine. Then imagine the same fire or ardent heat coming out of the heart and being received by you and your lover. This way the union achieved will be stronger and more complete, before and during sexual contact. As a form of yoga within the Hindu tradition, Tantra emphasizes the importance of knowing how vital energy circulates within the body in order to harmonize the circulation of this energy and develop its power. The body is energy in action, but in order to develop the power of this vital energy, we have to know the points where this energy is con- centrated and distributed. According to Oriental teaching, when these points, referred to as chakras, become blocked—whether due to stress, emotional problems, inhibitions, phobias, or fear of contact, among other things—a person's sexual vitality diminishes considerably. They are seven centers distributed along the length of the body, con- nected to the glands that regulate the normal functioning of the respective areas of the body. When these centers malfunction, we are more suscepti- ble to contracting various diseases that also affect our behavior and emo- tions. Meditation and visualization help unblock these centers and har- monize their functions. The center corresponding to sexual energy is the one that is most often blocked. We can unblock our sexual energy by means of localization, relaxation, and motion. The more we relax and are aware of our emotional and sexual flow, the better we'll be able to control our personal power and enjoy our intimate relationships. Moving the areas of the body where sexual energy flows in a smooth and harmonious fashion helps us get to know that energy and enjoy it. The First Rhythm Is the Sexual Impulse This rhythm is directly related to the mutual attraction between the two partners. It is characterized by the seduction each partner provokes in the other. The Second Rhythm Is Excitation This tempo is spontaneous and is usually expressed more slowly in the woman and more quickly in the man. It depends exclusively on the erotic game that was induced by the first rhythm. It is important to per- sonalize your ardor to stimulate your lover's erogenous zones. The Third Rhythm Is the Orgasmic Rhythm This rhythm is the result of the previous ones. Just like in a dance, lovers preserve an erotic energy of both instinctive and emotional en- counters. This stage concentrates the mystery of the ecstasy of sexual rhythm. The Fourth Rhythm Is Consummation At this level an infinite explosion is achieved that transcends the limits of physical satisfaction and awakens the lovers' indescribable feelings. This burst, this explosive ecstasy, can only be attained through mutual surrender, while following the rhythm of love. When each lover adapts to the sexual response of the partner, the sexual act does not end with the orgasm—quite the contrary; after the temporary release, these tech- niques rekindle sexual pleasure