Why Me? Why Him? Why This?

 Any kind of self-improvement, sexual as much as any other, requires some effort, and this book is written to teach your partner and you in clear, simple terms how to deepen your sexual lives and your relationship to one another. If your partner has given you this chapter to read, you may be somewhat skeptical about this newfangled sexual practice x and wonder why you (and he) need it. You should know that the Tao (pronounced DOW) of sexuality is anything but new. It is at least a three-thousand-year-old tradition of accumulated wisdom recording how people can make love most pleasurably and most healthfully. Even the most seasoned lover can probably learn something from this treasure trove of experience. Interestingly, in the Taoist tradition most of the sex advisers (including the emperor’s own consultants) were women. How different from the West, where until recently almost all sex advice was given by men – if given at all. Especially if your sexual relationship is already rich and satisfying, you may be wondering why you need to read a book about "doing what comes naturally.” Though all people have instinctual sexual desire, what we do with this desire and how we maintain and cultivate it over a lifetime are anything but obvious. In the West, we take for granted that couples will lose their passion for one another over the years, but according to the Tao this is not a law of nature and in fact this attraction never needs to wither. (We talk more about this in the final chapter, “Making Love for a Lifetime.”) If you bought this book for your partner or to learn more about male sexuality, you may be very eager to help your lover become multi-orgasmic. Nonetheless, you may feel that you spend too much time trying to please your partner, and certainly there are many women who do just that. This book, however, is not about your pleasing him. One of the main benefits of Taoist sexuality is that it teaches your partner how he can cultivate his sexual skill and how he can better please you. Though this book is entitled The Multi-Orgasmic Man, it could just as well have been called The Mul i- Orgasmic Couple. In the words of one partner of a multi-orgasmic man, "When my husband started practicing Sexual Kung Fu, I began experiencing multiple orgasms much more often. This is a very special gift."