THE MULTI-ORGASMIC MAN

 It goes without saying that his prescription did not limit the number of times a man of any age could have sex and non- ejaculatory orgasms. This restriction on ejaculation may sound like a disappointment, but once you have had multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms, you won't miss ejaculating at all. In the words of one multi-orgasmic man, "Once you have multi's [non-ejaculatory orgasms], you never want to go back to squirt [ejaculatory] orgasms. Squirt orgasms are just in your genitals, multi's are whole-body orgasms." Sun Ssu-miao, who lived to 101, ejaculated only after making love one hundred times. But rather than adhering to any rigid numerical formula, you should try to pay attention to your body. If you are exhausted or sick, drunk or stuffed with food, you should avoid ejaculating. If you are working hard you will want to conserve your semen, but if you are on vacation you may wish to ejaculate a little more often. The ancient Taoists, who lived close to nature, also believed that just as plants and animals conserve their energy in winter, so should people. Besides the seasons, there are other rhythms that will determine the number of times you ejaculate. If you are trying to conceive a child, you will need to ejaculate whenever your partner is ovulating. In general, when you ejaculate you should feel refreshed and energetic. If ejaculating leaves you feeling empty, depressed, or exhausted, you need to increase the amount of time between ejaculations or avoid ejaculating altogether until you build up your sexual energy. When you do ejaculate, you can conserve some semen and sexual energy by approaching the point of no return slowly rather than thrusting vigorously to a climax. After you ejaculate, you can also practice PC contractions to tighten your pelvic muscles and reduce the amount of energy that typically leaks out after ejaculation. At the same time it is important not to become obsessive about non-ejaculation and not to give yourself a hard time when you do ejaculate. As Michael Winn explains, "It is very important not to be fanatical about non-ejaculation. A lot of men who learn about Sexual Kung Fu think, 'Wow, this is great. It makes sense. I want to do it.' And then they have a problem controlling their ejaculation. And then they start passing judgment on themselves and feeling guilty. They are missing the point, which is not even whether you ejaculate or not, but whether you are able to recycle some of the sexual energy up through your body before you ejaculate. Obviously, the longer you can delay your ejaculation, the greater your opportunity to cultivate this energy for creative and spiritual growth. If you need to ejaculate and it's coming and you can't s op i , just go for it. Don't beat yourself up. Because what is really impor ant ultimately is not just the energy in the sperm, but the overall love between you and your partner ." t t t r Remember that the energy is more than just the sperm; if you are able to draw any energy out of the sperm, you are far ahead of where you were before you started, in terms both of the level of pleasure you will be able to experience and of the energy you will be able to circulate for your health. True sexual satisfaction comes from both pleasure and health.