Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Swallow or not?

Swallow or Not? S ome men blast off, some give it up in quivery jerks. I
was with a photographer who lived in a loft and ejac-
ulated over thirty feet out the window. (I know, it was
juvenile.) Another guy shot it like timed capsules.
If you don’t want to swallow, catch his jism in a non-
antiseptic way. A piece of your silky lingerie (unless you’re
at his place) is perfect.
I’ve never noticed an unpleasant strong taste when a
man eats meat. It’s said that asparagus and beets will fla-
vor him, but all I’ve noticed is garlic. It has to be a lot of
garlic, too. It’s said alcohol can make it bitter, but I’ve
not been dissatisfied with men who’ve had martinis. In
fact, I find rather than an aftertaste, some come has an
after-zing like champagne.
The  biggest  lament  I  hear  from  other  women  is
when his come has the consistency of wallpaper paste.
This is such a turn-off that I recommend the first time
you fellate a man, you collect it in a silky thing or in
your  mouth;  whereupon  you  excuse  yourself  to  the
bathroom to spit.I dislike the image of a load, because I think the come
of  a  man  you  are  crazy  for  is  the  original  manna.  But
when  it  comes  to  the  unusual  situation  where  a  man
emits wallpaper paste, I have five recommendations:
1. Put ice chips inside your mouth when he’s getting
close.
2. Put a lemon wedge in a washcloth nearby; it will
make you salivate.
3. Keep a glass of something effervescent by the bed,
with which to swig it down.
4. Suck on a peppermint.
5. Hold your tongue on the back of the roof of your
mouth to close up your throat cavity. Then drink
from your bedside glass of water.
In porn flicks, the woman often lets the semen dribble
out of her mouth and plasters it on her breasts. That’s
kind of sticky, but it gives you another possibility if you’re
really freaked about swallowing.
If  his  ejaculate  is  too  thick,  take  a  drink  from  your
water glass when you know he’s about to come, and keep
some of the water in your mouth to dilute it. If you find
it overwhelming to swallow when he spurts (this can be
hard if he’s a strong thruster), then pool it on the under-
side of your tongue until you come off him.
If the idea of swallowing is repellent, it might help to
know the composition of this substance, which we can
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26look upon as the daiquiri of natural substances. It is over
95 percent water, 2 percent sperm, 1 percent sugar, and
to nourish the sperm, the rest is minerals and vitamins,
among them vitamin C. Its distinctive taste generally is
that slightly metallic trace of zinc.
The average teaspoon has only about twenty-five calo-
ries, which is a fifth of what you work off in a quickie. (For
copulation plus blow job you can count on burning off no
less than three hundred calories).
Some men emit a pre-ejaculatory fluid as well, which
is comprised of 99 percent water and 1 percent lubricat-
ing compounds. This is okay to lick and ingest, too.
According to Dr. Morgentaler, “Yes, it’s true that men
are likely to be highly appreciative when a woman skill-
fully  and  enthusiastically  performs  oral  sex  on  him,
whether or not she spits or swallows. And, of course, it is
up to the woman to decide which she would like to do;
but it is not all the same to the man.
“Imagine if you cooked for a man, and he looked into
your eyes, told you it was delicious, and then you caught
him  spitting  out  the  food  into  his  napkin!  When  a
woman spits his come, he feels that it is indeed filthy.
When a woman swallows, and even more, when she tells
him he ‘tastes good,’ it is a great thing for him.”
Many guys feel guilty about receiving oral sex, partic-
ularly if they have not already taken care of their partner.
swallow or not?
27Making  him  feel  good  about  his  “stuff”  adds  to  the
pleasure and contentment of the man. A reaction to the
semen  is  highly  unusual,  and  swallowing  has  virtues.
From the man’s point of view, it is so much better if you
do. For men, it is a symbolic gesture of love that you
swallow his come. This is certainly something to keep
in mind.
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Everything You Need
to Know about Rhythm Y ou take control of rhythm, but speed is his choice.
He will want you to accelerate and then go slow.
You can use tiny sweeps of the back of your tongue on the
frenulum,  or  tiny  probing  licks  of  the  balls  when  the
tempo is fast. When it slows, you lick from the base of the
balls  across  the  flat  place  forward  to  the  penis.  (Your
mouth needs to be moist for these long hauls.) He’ll be
euphoric!
It was my European lovers who taught me to pace oral
sex. This may be sheer coincidence, or it may be that in
America we are barraged with others’ expectations about
all things personal, especially sex. If you see porn flicks,
you should be aware that the actresses give overactive
blow  jobs.  They  are  continually  doing  something  hot
and heavy for the camera to record. These scenes remind
me of the smutty flip books that the class cartoonist cir-
culated  in  seventh  grade.  The  actresses  go  at  oral  sexwithout  pause,  like  mechanics.  Even  in  sex  technique
videos the picture is skewed. You don’t get the sense of a
woman’s building desire for the guy she goes down on.
The loving way is to syncopate: stop, start, and sur-
prise. Meander to different areas of his body, even sit on
his face if you feel like it. Even a quickie has a pause to
gaze into each other’s eyes, or for you to outline his hips
and receive a caress of his hands.
At the offset you try to synchronize, then you lope off
and improvise. There can be breaks to drink water, alter
the lighting, or undress early on. It’s not necessary at all
to go down-down-down on him like a porn star.
Gradually  you  enlarge  his  carnal  vibes  by  reining
them  in.  Usually  it’s  when  his  eyes  glaze  over  and  the
timbre of his growl becomes fierce. Now, in unison, you
make  the  rhythm  as  supple  as  a  willow  branch  and
smooth as sandstone. It’s for the shimmering finale that
you  keep  your  reserve  of  energy  and  breath;  and  you
become, just as he reaches inevitability, the metronome.
Curiously,  and  in  complete  defiance  of  the  porn
scenes, if you love each other, the timing will eventuate
to something perfect.

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